This past week I learned just how much music can heal and soothe. I have just started working with a new resident. She is in her early 60’s, suffering from Alzheimer’s and very anxious. She is often calling out to her husband and although he visits everyday on a regular basis, she often does not remember.
A week after our first meeting I went back to see her again and found out from the staff that her husband had passed away suddenly. It was tragic and although her family had told this resident about her husband’s passing, she does not remember. She continues to ask where he is and when he will be coming to visit.
So, this week when I went to visit I used music, specifically me singing and playing the guitar, to “hold” my resident. The music and my voice was used to comfort her and lesson her anxiety; it provided a place for her to express her grief and anxiety safely. Something changed for me as I worked with her. Although there wasn’t much talking, there was eye contact and simple presence. It was very powerful.
We all find ourselves in times of sadness and grief. Next time you face such emotions try using music, it can be recorded as well, to “be with you”. Let the music be a container for your feelings, let it hold you, let it comfort you. Allow yourself to simple be present with the music. See what happens.
